Jesus’ death, an act of extreme violence, was a necessary act of service to his people — taking the form of ‘a ransom’ (Greek lytron; Matt 20:28; Mark 10:45).
Care must be taken in the wording of Christian songs and preaching to avoid — and indeed to repudiate — any sense that in the God-forsakenness and dereliction of the cross (Matt 27:46; Mark 15:34) the Father punishes the Son.